In the daily hustle and bustle of motherhood, there are moments when words fail us. Our children, especially those with strong wills or neurodivergent traits, often react to our energy and presence more than our spoken instructions. This silent dance of regulation, deeply rooted in polyvagal theory, shows us that sometimes, the most powerful way to calm and guide our children is without saying a word!

Understanding Polyvagal Theory

Polyvagal theory, developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, explains how our autonomic nervous system regulates our emotional and physiological states. It highlights three primary states:

1. Social Engagement: When we feel safe and connected, our nervous system is in a calm, regulated state.
2. Fight or Flight: When we perceive danger, our system becomes activated, preparing us to confront or flee the threat.
3. Freeze: In extreme cases of threat, our system may shut down, leading to feelings of numbness or disconnection.

For mothers, understanding...