In the journey of parenting, few challenges compare to raising strong-willed and neurodivergent children. These amazing kids bring so much joy and uniqueness into our lives, but they also require a lot more guidance in navigating their emotions and reactions. I feel the highs are higher but the lows are lower.

One powerful tool that can help them achieve emotional balance is Tapping, also known as Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT).

What is Tapping (EFT) and Why is it Important for Kids?

Tapping is a simple yet effective technique that involves gently tapping on specific points on the body while focusing on negative emotions or physical sensations. This method, which combines elements of ancient Chinese acupressure and modern psychology, can help release emotional distress and bring about a sense of calm.

For strong-willed and neurodivergent children, Tapping offers a way to manage their emotions independently and effectively. It empowers them to regulate their own...

 In the daily hustle and bustle of motherhood, there are moments when words fail us. Our children, especially those with strong wills or neurodivergent traits, often react to our energy and presence more than our spoken instructions. This silent dance of regulation, deeply rooted in polyvagal theory, shows us that sometimes, the most powerful way to calm and guide our children is without saying a word!

Understanding Polyvagal Theory

Polyvagal theory, developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, explains how our autonomic nervous system regulates our emotional and physiological states. It highlights three primary states:

1. Social Engagement: When we feel safe and connected, our nervous system is in a calm, regulated state.
2. Fight or Flight: When we perceive danger, our system becomes activated, preparing us to confront or flee the threat.
3. Freeze: In extreme cases of threat, our system may shut down, leading to feelings of numbness or disconnection.

For mothers, understanding...

It’s funny how a perspective shift can transform everything. 

A strong willed child, can be energetic, can be argumentative, can be absolutely infuriating. They can unintentionally beat you down, especially if you are leading the way with positive discipline, gentle parenting and respectful parenting practices. 

It can all make you questions your sanity.  It forces you to work on yourself, to be come a better parent. You learn to master your own strong willed tendencies, you search out ways to find better grounding and control of yourself. 

You look for tools to support your interactions with your child. You use ‘Time-In” you swerve ‘Reward Charts’ you work hard to never use punishment or reward. 

You build resilience, you teach them how to look at things from a global perspective not just a local perspective (the whole world hates me then becomes that one girl doesn’t like me) 

Life becomes easier and you find a...